Sex Positions That Go Easy on Your Wrists and Knees
You wanted sex. Somehow, you've ended up holding your whole body weight on two bent wrists while trying to look pleased about it. Your knees have gone numb, your partner's having a great time, and you're quietly doing sums about how much longer you can hold this.
If your wrists or knees hate a position, give them less to do. Lying on your side, reclining and sitting all change where your weight goes, and you can still have fantastic, filthy sex with a body that's got opinions. In fact, you'll probably enjoy it more once it stops hurting.
Lie on your sides
Facing each other on your sides lets the mattress hold most of you up. You can kiss, use your hands or a toy, and move your legs without staying on all fours. Facing the same way gives you spooning, which is a great one. Just keep your lower arm somewhere comfy, not trapped under a partner. A pillow that lets your neck relax helps as well, so you can think about the touch instead of counting down until you can move your arm.
Lie back and let them come to you
Being on your back takes all the weight off your hands and knees. Let your legs rest somewhere comfortable, instead of holding them high or wide for ages. Your partner can use their hands, mouth or a toy from beside you, without climbing on top. If you do want penetration, pick an arrangement that supports you both. There's no rule that says the person giving the attention has to kneel.
Sit down
A supportive chair lets you sit up with no weight on your wrists at all, and your partner can climb onto your lap if their knees allow it. Keep both your feet on the floor, and make sure the chair's stable. Getting in and out of the chair matters as much as sitting in it, so if that's hard or the seat bothers your hips, the bed may be better. Our seated sex guide explores your options.
Let a wedge take the weight
A good firm ramp can hold you up so that your wrists and knees don't have to. The Pivot Positioner Plus XL supports your hips for positions that would otherwise need your arms. You can drape yourself over it from the front or back, with nothing to hold up at all.
Pillows work as well, under an arm or a leg. Keep them stable, and stop if one pushes a joint somewhere you don't want it to go. Our sex pillow comparison explains the shapes. A wedge isn't a treatment for pain, and a taller stack isn't always better. If you've got an injury, recent surgery or ongoing symptoms, get advice from a clinician or physio. Stop for pain, numbness or instability.
Let a toy do the hard work
When your wrists aren't up to much, a long handle helps a lot. A wand like the Her Majesty rests on you with very little effort.
Keep the pleasure, ditch the pose
Our non-penetrative sex guide has more options that don't rely on lining two bodies up. You can still flirt, get naked and enjoy a filthy sense of humour while being properly supported. Comfortable sex is still sex. Your knees don't have to suffer for it.