Seated Sex Positions: Pull Up a Chair and Get in Their Lap

You sit down for a kiss. They look at you for a second, then swing a leg over and settle into your lap. Suddenly that chair has a much better job than holding the clothes you've been meaning to put away since Sunday, and nobody's going out for dinner.

Seated sex gets you close, face to face, with room for hands and a different angle from lying in bed. It can involve a lap, a chair or just sitting on the edge of the bed. And you can be fully dressed for quite a lot of it.

Get in their lap

One person sits with their back supported, and the other climbs on, facing them. You've got their mouth right there, their hands on your arse, and every grind presses you right against each other. It's all about staying close, not making big movements. Rock, roll your hips and let them feel you doing it.

Penetration's optional. Kissing, grinding through your clothes and a hand up your top can be plenty for a while. The person underneath shouldn't be holding weight that hurts, and if your legs or hips feel cramped, change it. Our guide to the lotus position has a closer, cosier version on the bed.

Sit side by side

This leaves each of you with your own support. Turn towards each other and slide a hand across. Watch each other. Tell them exactly where you want them. It's much easier to show someone the touch you like when you're not busy balancing.

Add a toy, and you've got a good night at home. A little mini wand like the Maia Indi is easy to pass back and forth. Our couples toy guide can help you choose something together.

Try the edge of the bed

Sit right at the edge with your partner kneeling in front of you, and you've got the perfect height for oral. Or lean back and let them stand between your legs. There's no chair back or arms in the way. Bed height matters here, since dangling feet and an awkward crouch aren't what you had in mind, and a mattress edge can dip more than you'd think. Our edge of bed guide shows how to work with it.

Use furniture that can take it

A chair that's fine for one person isn't automatically fine for two people moving together. Use something stable that can hold you both, and avoid wheels, loose legs and anything that wobbles. Or get a chair made for the job, like the WhipSmart Inflatable Bondage Chair, with its detachable vibrating dildo and restraints. That's one way to take a seat.

Clear shoes and cables out of the way, keep your feet supported where you can and leave room to get up. Falling over your own jeans is a shit way to interrupt a very good kiss.

Once you're comfortable, stop thinking about the furniture. It's done its job, and you've got someone in your lap.