Spooning Sex: Slow, Deep and Far Too Good to Be This Easy

It's Sunday morning. You're half asleep, and they roll in behind you, warm all down your back, with one arm over your waist and their breath on your neck. You push back against them without opening your eyes. Nobody says anything. There's a slow, sleepy slide, and you're not getting up for a good long while.

That's spooning sex: both of you on your sides, facing the same way, with one behind the other. It's close, it's lazy, and it leaves plenty of skin within reach. The catch is that two horny people still have elbows. Get those sorted, and the rest is easy.

Leave room for your arms

If you're behind, bring your lower arm forward or rest it somewhere comfortable, rather than trapping it under your partner. The person in front needs space too. Get close enough to enjoy the contact, but don't squeeze so tight that nobody can adjust. You want a partner against you, not a very determined bag of laundry.

Keep your head at a comfortable height. If your pillow's making your neck bend awkwardly, swap it before you settle in.

Move your hips, not your whole body

If you're going for penetration, alignment's everything. Shift one body slightly higher or lower on the bed, change the distance between your hips, or bend your top knee up towards your chest. That last one opens you up and changes the angle a lot, and it's worth playing with.

The person in front should be happy with the depth and movement. Start gently, use plenty of lube, and stop if it hurts. The thrusts here are short and deep, so don't expect big movements. Your heads don't need to line up, so if there's a big height difference, let your hips decide, and see our height difference guide for more.

Now use your hands

This is where spooning really wins. The person behind has a free hand for nipples, a clit or a cock, and the person in front can kiss the fingers that come near their mouth. It works without penetration, too. Slide a hand between their legs from behind while you kiss the back of their neck. One of you can guide the other's hand, or you can touch yourself while they hold you. A quiet "there" is far better than hoping they can read your mind through the back of your head.

Add a vibrator

Being filled from behind while something vibrates on your clit is a very good way to spend your Sunday. A short toy can be fiddly in this position, so choose a shape with reachable controls. The Maia Indi is small enough to slip in between your thighs, and a chunky bulb makes it easy to hold. Let the person getting the vibration position it first, then hand over if you both want. Our bullet vibrator guide covers other shapes.

Move before something goes numb

A pillow between your knees may help you settle, or you might want more space between your legs. Move if your shoulder aches or an arm starts to tingle. Swap sides if you need to. And if you're getting hot, separate for a minute. You can want someone enormously and still need them to stop roasting your back.

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