Oral Sex Positions: Get Comfortable and Stay Down There All Night
You've got your head between their thighs, their fingers in your hair and all the time in the world. They're making noises you've never heard before. You've finally found the spot, and you don't plan to stop. Then your neck cramps. Going down on someone is a far better use of your evening than discovering how long you can hold your head at a stupid angle.
A good oral position lets the person receiving relax completely, and lets the person giving reach comfortably and stay there. Sort that out, and you could be down there for a very, very long time.
Lie back on the bed
The person receiving lies back with their head and legs comfortably supported, and the person giving settles between their legs or alongside them. Put a pillow under their hips, and you'll tilt everything up towards your mouth and take the strain off your neck. It's the simplest upgrade in this whole article.
Move closer before you try to stretch further. A small change in where someone's lying can do more than another five minutes of pretending you're fine.
Try lying on your sides
Lying on your side lets the mattress hold you up, and you can rest your head on their thigh and take your time. It's also how you do a very comfortable 69, if you both want that. Our guide to side-lying 69 has the details. It might take a bit of shuffling, especially on a soft bed. Say what needs moving, rather than silently accepting a mouthful of doona.
And you can take turns. Focusing on one person's pleasure at a time is a wonderful way to spend an evening.
Sit on the edge, or sit on a face
Sitting at the edge of the bed or in a sturdy chair with your partner kneeling in front of you puts everything at exactly the right height. It's great for blowjobs and for going down on someone, and they get to look down and watch it all. Kneeling on a hard floor isn't compulsory, though, so use a pillow, and move if your knees hurt. Our seated sex guide covers stable support.
Want to be on top? Our guide to face sitting shows you how to do it and hold your own weight.
The giver keeps control of their head
Keep their head free, and don't put weight on their face or restrict their breathing. They have to be able to pull away immediately. Holding someone's head should only happen if they've said they like it. Stop to talk or change position whenever you need to. A request to shift your hips isn't criticism of anyone's genitals. It's useful information from the person doing all the work.
If something aches, change it. Ongoing pain, or symptoms from an injury, need proper advice, not more determination.
Bring something extra
A little JO Bake Shoppe Peach Cobbler makes things sweet and slippery, and our flavoured lube guide has more ideas. Adding a finger or two, or a toy, can also be a very good idea.
Oral can pass on STIs, too, and our oral sex protection guide explains condoms, dental dams and testing. Once you're comfortable, get back to work. You've got all night.