Side-Lying 69: Two Mouths, No Sore Necks and Very Little Concentration

Giving and getting head at the same time sounds like an excellent deal. You've got their cock or pussy in your mouth, they've got yours in theirs, and the whole thing's a feedback loop of filth. Then something feels so good that your mouth forgets what it was doing, and you just lie there moaning into their thigh.

Both of you lie on your sides, facing in opposite directions, with your heads near each other's genitals. There's nobody balancing on top, nobody's neck is at a stupid angle, and you've each got a thigh to use as a pillow. It's the most comfortable way to do a 69.

Give both people room to settle

Start with enough space to lie comfortably and move apart. Shift along the bed until you can both reach without straining. Bend your top leg, as that opens you up and gives them somewhere to go. Height differences can make the alignment tricky, so move your whole body rather than craning your neck. Our oral sex position guide has alternatives if it doesn't suit you.

Keep your head free

You each need control over your own head and breathing. Don't hold your partner in place, trap their head with your thighs or thrust without warning. Agree on an easy pause signal before you begin, like a tap on the leg. A pause might mean a sore neck, a need to swallow or wanting a different position, and it's no big deal.

Taking turns can be better

Here's the secret. Some people love doing both at once, while others keep switching their attention between what they're feeling and what their mouth should be doing. It's hard to concentrate when you're being licked properly. If that's you, say so. Stay close and take turns: one of you goes to work while the other lies there and enjoys it, then swap. It's not selfish to just receive for a while. And when you're close to coming, you're allowed to stop everything and just hold on.

Flavour and protection

A little flavoured lube like Adam & Eve Strawberry keeps things sweet and slippery. Our flavoured lube guide has more options.

Oral can transmit STIs. Condoms and dental dams can reduce the risk, and lying on your sides doesn't change that. Our oral sex and STI guide covers your choices, and the dental dam guide explains how to use one.

Then enjoy it for what it is: a way to give and receive while lying down. If doing both turns out to be too much, you've got a very good problem.