Sex Toys for Couples: What to Bring to Bed With You Tonight

Picture the two of you on the couch, one phone between you, scrolling through sex toys with your legs tangled together. "That one?" "Oh, fuck yes. Would you use that on me?" Already, this is a better night than the forty minutes you spent staring at a takeaway menu.

A toy doesn't need "couples" on the box to be great for couples. It just has to add something you both want, whether that's a bit of vibration, a new kind of power or a good reason to put your phones down and pay each other very close attention.

Start with the sex you already love

Love being teased? Get something that drags it out. Love coming from vibration? Make room for a vibrator. Want your partner deciding what happens next? A remote gives that a button.

"This looks fun. Want to try it?" is all you need to say. If they say no, leave it there. If they lean in for a closer look, the shopping just got much more interesting. Our guide to talking about sex toys can help if you're nervous about bringing it up.

Small vibrators do big things

A bullet vibrator is the easy place to start. It's small enough to fit between you while you're fucking and easy to pass back and forth. And there's nothing new to learn, because all it does is make what you're already doing better.

The Maia KONA has a very strong motor and a cheeky pineapple print. And if one of you already has a favourite vibrator, bring it out. Showing your partner what you like beats pretending you've never met your own bedside drawer.

You don't both have to be touching the toy, either. Holding a vibrator on your partner and watching them lose it is one of the best shows in town.

Hand over the controls

With a remote-controlled vibrator, one of you wears the toy, and the other one holds all the power. The fun is finding out just how cruel they feel like being. Maybe it starts on a quiet night in, and they don't even look up from their book while you squirm.

A small remote is for when you're nearby, and an app toy with internet control works over long distances. Our remote vs app guide explains the difference, so you don't expect a little handheld remote to reach Perth from Melbourne.

Being in charge is only fun while the other person's loving it. If they want it stopped, stop it.

Toys you use during sex

A vibrating cock ring like the Fun Factory Speed Date puts vibration right at the base of a cock, where a partner can grind against it. Other couples vibrators work differently, with a mix of inside and outside contact. They don't fit every body or position the same way, so read our couples vibrators vs vibrating rings guide before you pick one.

Or try something that doesn't vibrate at all

A blindfold turns every touch into a surprise. Lingerie changes the whole mood. Cuffs change who's in charge. A strap-on changes who's doing what to whom, and that's a lot of fun if it's what you both keep coming back to. If you'd like a few things in one go, the Adam & Eve Midnight Moods set has 10 pieces to explore. You don't need to buy half a dungeon.

Choose one thing you're both keen on, and you can always add more later. Right now, the best part is getting excited about the same parcel.