Plus-Size Sex Positions: Your Body Is Hot, So Let's Make Room for It

The position diagram shows two narrow bodies, no visible belly and knees that apparently bend on request. Yours has an actual person in it, with soft places to grab and a whole lot to get your hands on. Let's work with that, because your body's not the problem here. Those diagrams are.

Plus-size sex doesn't need an apology or special rules about what you're allowed to enjoy. It just needs enough room, good support and a partner who's paying attention. Here are some positions that give you all three.

Lie on your sides

The bed takes much of your weight, so you can relax into it. Face each other for easy kissing, or face the same way for spooning. Bend your top leg up, or rest it over your partner's hip, and that's usually all the room you need. Move a little apart if you need space for your hands.

You don't have to press every part of your bodies together. A small gap can give you far better access, and you're still right there. Our spooning guide explains the arm and hip adjustments. Move if anything feels compressed, numb or painful.

Get on top and take what you want

If you're the one getting fucked, being on top gives you control over depth and speed. You can stay close, grinding slowly, without lifting your whole body up and down. And they get to lie there looking up at all of you, with both hands full. Find a comfortable position for your knees and your upper body, and make sure the person underneath is happy too. Our on-top position guide has more.

Make room around your hips

A firm wedge can make a huge difference, tilting your hips and giving everyone much better access without you having to hold anything up. The Pivot Positioner Plus XL is big, soft and made for exactly this. Start with a modest height, as more isn't always better. The edge of a bed works beautifully, too, with you lying back and your partner standing or kneeling between your legs.

Keep weight off anywhere it restricts your breathing. For seated positions, use furniture that's stable and rated for you both. Optimism's great, but it isn't a load rating.

Gear that fits

Sex toys should fit you, and not the other way around. The Sportsheets Curvy Divine Strap-On is designed for fuller figures, with a secure, supportive fit, and it looks fucking fantastic.

A position can feel great but leave very little room for your hand, so move enough to create some access. A longer handle or a curved shape is often easier to place than a tiny toy. Our guide to reading toy descriptions helps you compare usable sizes, and the wand range is well worth a look, with those long handles.

Ask for what feels good

"Come closer", "a bit lower" and "stay right there" are useful instructions. "Sorry about my body" isn't something you owe anyone. If someone's in your bed, they want to be there, and they want you.

Bring your attention back to how it feels, rather than judging how you look from every angle. Find a few positions you love, and keep them. Then enjoy being looked at, because you're allowed to.