Sex Toy Kits or Separate Toys? Buy What You'll Really Fuck With

You went shopping for one vibrator. Now you're looking at a box with six toys, a blindfold and a discount big enough to distract you from the fact you only want two of them.

Sex toy kits can be a bloody good buy. They can also be an expensive way to fill a drawer with things you keep moving aside to reach your favourite. The difference comes down to what you'd actually fuck around with once the excitement of the unboxing wears off.

When a kit makes sense

Picture a couple who've been talking about bondage. One wants to be tied up, the other wants to do the tying, and they both like the thought of a blindfold. If a set gives them all of that at a good price, it's perfect.

The Adam & Eve Couples Foreplay Game Set is a good example: challenge cards, sex dice, a feather tickler and bondage tape, all pointing towards the same filthy evening. It's a whole night in a box.

Now picture that couple finding a bigger box, with cuffs they don't want, a toy that's far too big and three accessories they can't identify. More stuff hasn't made their night any better. It's just made the box heavier. So browse our sex toy kits with your own fantasies in mind. You shouldn't need to adopt six new sexual hobbies by Friday.

When to buy separately

Maybe you've found a vibrator with exactly the shape you want. Then a cheaper kit catches your eye, but the vibrator inside it is completely different. If that shape was the reason you wanted it, the swap matters. The same goes for a dildo's firmness, a handle you can grip and buttons you can reach. Those details change how it feels to use. The matching box only changes where it sits before you open it.

The vibrator range lets you spend your money on the toy you actually want, and our first vibrator guide can help narrow it down. You're allowed to be picky about something that's going on your body. "It came with the others" isn't much comfort if you never turn it on.

Do the real maths

Compare the kit price with what you'd spend on just the items you want. Leave out the extras you don't care about, even when the photo makes them look important. A huge saving on things you were never going to buy isn't a saving.

That doesn't mean every extra needs a serious purpose. A cheap little toy you're curious about can be half the fun. Just be honest about the difference between "ooh, I'd love to try that" and "apparently that's in there too". A bargain should leave you pleased with your purchase, not explaining why the unused nipple clamps were technically free.

A spare, or something new?

You already own a bullet. Does that make another one pointless? Not at all. A spare's handy, and you might just want a different shape. But if you were after a new feeling, another similar bullet won't deliver it. Think about what the new toy actually adds: a bigger head, a better grip, a different kind of stimulation or a second favourite. Our couples toy guide is a good place to start. Your sex life doesn't need a collector's checklist.

Don't try it all at once

Even a well-chosen kit can look a bit ambitious spread across the bed. Pick one thing tonight, and let the rest wait their turn. They won't take offence. For a smaller start, our beginner kit guide focuses on the essentials.

Buy the set if everything in it makes you think "fuck yes". Buy separately if you keep looking past it all at that one vibrator. Either way, pay for the toy you'll actually reach for.