Sex Position of the Week: Doggy, the One Everyone Comes Back To

Friday, 9pm. The text came through at lunch: Be on the bed when I get home. Knees. Blindfold on. Don't touch yourself. You've thought about nothing else all arvo. Now you can hear the keys in the door, slow footsteps down the hall and a belt being undone, one notch at a time, while you wait in the dark with your heart going like a two-stroke.

Then a hand lands on your hip, and a voice right behind you says, "Good. Stay exactly like that." Welcome to Sex Position of the Week. We're starting with doggy, the one more people name as their favourite than any other, and tonight, you're not the one making the decisions.

How to do it

One of you gets on hands and knees, with knees about hip-width apart. The other kneels up behind, between their calves, and holds on to their hips. That's the entire instruction manual. Move in slowly, find an angle that works, and build up from there.

Whoever's in front isn't just there for the view, either. Push back, rock, or hold still and make them do the work. It's every bit as much your position as theirs.

Why it's so bloody good

• The angle. It's deep, and it tends to hit the front wall, which is where a lot of people want the attention.
• The grip. Hips, waist, shoulders and a fistful of hair, if that's been agreed on.
• The view. Whoever's behind gets one of the best sights in the house.
• The free hand. Someone can reach under for a clit, a cock or a pair of balls without any acrobatics.

Make it even better

Most people with a clit won't come from thrusting alone, so bring something along. A slim bullet like the Passion Play bullet is easy to hold underneath you while they get on with it. Drop your chest down to the pillows and the whole angle changes, or get them to lean right over you and bite your shoulder.

Make it kinkier

Take away their eyes. A satin mask costs less than a slab, and it turns every touch into a surprise. Give orders, make them wait and put a hand flat between their shoulder blades when you want them lower. A grip in the hair or a slap on the bum can be fantastic, as long as you've talked about it first, so sort out a safeword over breakfast with our negotiation guide.

If it's not quite working

Doggy can go very deep, and hitting a cervix can feel like a punch in the guts. Tell them early, and have a look at our depth guide. Sore knees? Put a pillow under them, or move to the edge of the bed so that the person behind can stand. Sore wrists? Go down on your forearms. Our rear-entry guide has plenty more, and if there's a big height difference, this guide will sort you out.

Doing it anally? Take it slower, use far more lube than you think you need and read our first-time guide first.

That's doggy. Simple, filthy and popular for a reason. See you next week.