Mutual Masturbation: Watch Each Other Get Off and Learn Everything
They've seen you naked plenty of times. But they've never seen what you do when you've got the bed to yourself and a bit of time. So you lie back with your legs open and your hand between them, and they're right there next to you, doing the same thing and watching every move. Neither of you can look away. Fuck, this is hot.
Mutual masturbation means sharing all of that. You might each touch yourselves, touch each other or bring in toys. You're showing them exactly what you like, and you're being watched while you do it. Few things feel as exposing or as much fun.
Say what you've got in mind
People mean slightly different things by this, so make the invitation clear. It could be touching yourselves side by side, taking turns to watch, or a mix of hands. "I want to watch you get yourself off" is about as clear as it gets, and it's a great sentence to hear.
Agree on what you both want, and leave out everything else. Liking the idea of being watched doesn't automatically mean wanting to be touched at the same time. Our guide to talking about toys can help if you want to bring your favourite along.
Get comfortable first
Recline side by side with support under your heads, or sit facing each other at each end of the bed. That second one gives you the best view. Pick somewhere your arms can move. You can look at your partner, close your eyes or focus on yourself. There's no eye-contact requirement, though holding someone's gaze while you both get closer is pretty hard to beat.
Keep it private. Recording needs its own explicit agreement, and it doesn't quietly become part of the night just because a phone's nearby.
Do what you actually do
This is your chance to show what works, not to invent something impressive. Keep your usual pressure and pace. Your partner's taking notes, whether they know it or not. If they're touching you, guide their hand. If you're touching yourself, tell them what you're doing or what you're thinking about, if you feel like it. Talking dirty's very easy when you've both got a hand down there.
A bit of laughter's fine, and so's being quiet. You don't have to narrate your whole sex life like a very personal audio tour.
Bring your own toys
Separate toys let you each choose your own shape and intensity. One of you can love a vibrator while the other prefers a hand or a stroker. A Satisfyer Men Vibration gives a cock something to do, and a bullet vibrator does the same for a clit. If a toy moves between people or holes, clean it properly or change its condom. Our couples toy guide has more.
You don't have to come at the same time
You might come at different times or not at all. Neither of you has to hurry up so the other one can tick off a successful experiment. One of you getting there first can be a very nice show for the other, and might just help them along.
If you've wondered why things feel different alone and together, our solo vs partner orgasm guide is worth a read. Otherwise, enjoy learning what your partner's been keeping to themselves.