The G-Spot Explained: Where It Is and How to Make Your Legs Shake

Some G-spot advice makes it sound as though your vagina contains a secret switch and everyone else was told the location. Then there's the other story, about the toy or the partner who hit something inside you, and suddenly you felt a deep, heavy pressure that made your legs shake. Both can be true, and it's a very good excuse to go exploring.

Let's take the pressure off, figuratively at least. Some people love stimulation around the front vaginal wall. Others don't feel much there, or they'd rather have their clit touched. And it's up to you to find out which you are.

Where is it meant to be?

The name usually refers to a sensitive area on the front wall of the vagina, on the belly-button side, a few centimetres in. It isn't a universally agreed separate organ. The vagina, urethra and internal parts of the clitoris all sit close together, and researchers still debate exactly what the term describes. You don't need an anatomy argument in bed, though. You need to notice if a certain kind of pressure feels good.

How to look for it

Start when you're well turned on, as that area tends to respond better when you're aroused. Use clean hands or a clean, suitable toy, plus plenty of lube. Slide a finger or two in, palm up, and curl them towards your belly button in a "come here" motion. Press firmly and go slowly. Some people feel fullness or an odd pressure, even a feeling of needing to pee, that can turn into something amazing.

Change one thing at a time, and stop if it's uncomfortable. Feeling very little is an answer as well. You don't need to press harder forever.

A curved toy makes it easier

A curved dildo or vibrator directs the pressure where your fingers struggle to reach. The Maia Mesa is a flexible G-spot vibrator, and the Passion Play Classic G-Spot Vibe is another good place to start. Curve, length, width and firmness all change how it feels, and a pronounced curve is very different from a gentle one. Firm material sends pressure differently from soft. Our dildo buying guide can help you compare them.

Positions make a difference too. Being on top, leaning forward, or getting fucked from behind with your hips tilted can all aim things towards the front wall.

Tell your partner what you're feeling

"Lighter", "a little less", "that feels fucking good" and "I'd rather use my hand" are all useful. There isn't a flattering answer you have to give. If your clit's your favourite, keep it involved, and our guide to orgasm and penetration explains why that matters for so many people. Lots of people find a G-spot orgasm is easier and stronger with a hand on the clit at the same time.

Leave the promises out of it

You don't need to come or squirt to prove you've found something. They're different experiences, and our squirting explainer sorts out the facts. Keep exploring if you enjoy it, and change what you're doing if you don't. Your favourite feeling doesn't need a famous name to deserve more attention.