Double-Ended Dildos: Two Ends, and So Many Filthy Ways to Use Them

Picture the two of you on the bed, legs tangled and facing each other, with one long, slippery toy between you. Every time one of you pushes, the other one feels it. You can see each other's faces. You're fucking each other with the same cock, and nobody has to take turns.

That's the fantasy, and it's a very good one. But some double-ended dildos are built for sharing, while others just give one person two shapes to choose from. Here's how to get the right one for what you've got in mind.

Share it: face to face and hip to hip

For two people, a long flexible dong lets you each take as much as you like and move freely. Scissor together, lie back to back or both get on your knees and back onto it. Grind against each other until you're both shaking, or take turns pushing while the other just lies back and takes it.

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Shorter toys with an angled bulb work differently, because one person wears the bulb inside while the other gets the shaft. Our strapless strap-on guide has the details, as not all of them stay put without a hand or harness.

Keep it all to yourself

You don't need a partner to enjoy one. Long toys give you lots to hold on to, which means long, deep strokes with a proper grip. Toys with two different ends let you choose your feeling for the night, so you might start with the slim end and flip it when you're ready for more. Just make sure you want to use both ends, as a shape you'll never touch isn't much of a bargain.

Check each end, not the whole toy

A big total length includes the middle section, and that may stay outside you. What counts is how wide each end is and how much of it you can actually use. Compare those with a toy you already like. Our dildo size guide covers length, diameter and girth.

If you and your partner like different widths, then different-sized ends are perfect. A halfway size that neither of you really wants is an expensive way to disappoint two people at once. And if you're sharing, it's worth a chat about how deep you each like it, and how you'll say when it's too much. Enthusiasm from the far end is great, but only you know what you can take. Use your words.

Bendy or firm?

A soft, flexible middle lets you change angle and move around more, which helps when two bodies are involved. A firmer one is easier to aim. Very floppy and very stiff both have drawbacks when two people are going at it. Bendable doesn't mean indestructible, so don't fold it sharply or twist it hard.

Lube and more lube

There's a lot of toy to cover. Use plenty of water-based lube on both ends, and top up when things start to drag. Have a towel ready, because this is a gloriously messy way to spend an afternoon.

Clean between people and holes

Clean the toy between people or use a fresh condom on each end. Changing ends doesn't count as cleaning, especially when moving between anal and vaginal play. For anal use, you also need a purpose-made shape with a reliable stopper, and a second insertable end isn't one. So a double dong is best left out of your arse. Our guide to sharing toys has more.

That just leaves the most fun question of all: who's got which end?