Dirty Talk Line of the Week: "Don't You Dare Stop"

This is a new series for everyone who's ever wanted to talk dirty, opened their mouth and said something closer to "yep, good, keep going, thanks". Each week, we give you one line. It's just one line, and all you've got to do is say it out loud, once. This week's is the easiest and the best of the lot.

This week's line

"Don't you dare stop."

That's it. Four words. It works on everyone, and it can't go wrong. You don't need a special voice, or a whole fantasy planned out. There's no porn accent, and no risk of sounding like a stern pirate.

Why it works so well

• It's true. You only say it when they're doing something great, so you won't feel like you're faking anything.
• It's useful. You've just told them they're doing it right, which is the most helpful thing anyone can hear. The biggest mistake in bed is changing what you're doing as soon as it starts working, and this stops that.
• It's bossy, without being a big deal. That little "dare" adds a bit of heat and a hint of power, even if you've never given an order in your life.
• It's a huge compliment. They'll hear it as "you've completely wrecked me", and that's going to do them a lot of good.

How to say it

Say it low, and slowly, and between breaths. You don't need to be loud. Get closer to their ear, if you can. Grab their hair or their hip at the same time, if you want to drive the point home. And then, when they keep going, moan a bit. That's a reward, and it's going to go straight to their brain.

If you get nervous, try it with your eyes shut. No one's marking you. If it comes out a bit squeaky, that's fine, as squeaky suggests you're having a very good time. And if you burst out laughing, that's fine too. Our guide to dirty talk has a whole section on what to do when your mouth lets you down.

When to use it

Use it right at the moment when you start to get close. Also, when they've found the spot and you're worried they might wander off it. It works during oral, when you've got someone's fingers inside you, or when you're the one on top and they're holding your hips. You can try it in a whisper in a bed, or a growl against a wall.

A little warning: you can't use this line on someone if you've told them you're not sure. It only works if you mean it. If you do want them to stop, say that instead, and they should stop right away. Our guide to talking during sex covers all of it.

Four more lines to try if you're on a roll

1. "I've been thinking about this all day."
2. "Show me what you want."
3. "Right there. Exactly there."
4. "I want to watch you come."

Your homework

Say this week's line one time, before next week. That's it. Then see what it does to the person you say it to. It's a very good sign if they get a bit breathless, or hit you with a look that says "who are you, and where have you been".

If you'd like more help, try saying it first in a text, while they're at work. Our sexting guide can give you a hand. And if it turns out that you love being told how good you are, read our guide to praise kink.

See you next week. Don't you dare stop reading.