Blindfold Sex: Why Everything Feels Filthier When You Can't See It

You've got a blindfold on, and the room's gone quiet. You can hear them moving, but you can't tell where. Then nothing. For ages, nothing. Your skin is prickling everywhere, waiting. And then there's a mouth on the inside of your thigh, and your whole body jumps.

That's the fun of blindfold sex. When your eyes are out of the picture, your skin takes over. A kiss, a soft touch or a toy you've used a hundred times becomes a shock when you don't know when or where it's coming.

Why waiting feels so good

When you can see your partner reaching for a toy, you know what's next. Take that away and your imagination gets to work. Was that a hand? A feather? Are they coming closer, or just enjoying making you wait? Your brain fills in the gaps with something a lot dirtier than reality, usually.

If you're the one doing the touching, you've got the best job in the house. You can watch their breathing change, their hips lift and their mouth fall open. You can even just stop, and see how long they last before they beg.

Agree on what you both want beforehand, and stop when either of you asks. Get settled on the bed before it goes on, because guessing where the mattress ends is a different kind of excitement.

Pick one you can forget you're wearing

A soft blindfold that stays put beats a dramatic mask that keeps slipping. The Sportsheets Twilight Tease Blackout Blindfold shuts everything out, so you can focus on what's being done to you. It shouldn't squeeze your eyes or dig into your head, and it has to come off easily.

Want to look gorgeous in it? The Veiled Vision Lace Blindfold is delicate and sexy, for when you'd like to be looked at as much as touched. For a bit of cheek, the OUCH! Suck Don't Bite Satin Mask will give your partner some clear instructions. Browse all our blindfolds for more.

Add a feather for a slow tease

A feather tickler is so light that you won't be sure you felt it, until your whole body has broken out in goosebumps. Run it over their shoulders, down their stomach and along their inner thighs, stopping often to keep them guessing. See our sensory play toys. Soft fabric and ice cubes work too, and our guide to feather ticklers has more ideas. If your partner hates being tickled, leave the soles of their feet out of your bright idea.

Add a vibrator they already love

A familiar toy is a great place to start. The new part is not seeing it coming. A bullet vibrator is perfect, and the sound of it switching on will drive them mad all by itself. Hold it close. Let them hear it. Wait. Then put it somewhere they didn't expect.

Keep it at a level they enjoy. A pause before it touches them is delicious, but at some point, so is getting on with it.

Want cuffs as well?

A blindfold and the order to lie back are already plenty. But if you both love restraint, adding it means they can't see or reach, and that's a very intense place to be. Our beginner bondage kit guide covers the first steps, and our guide to bringing up bondage can help you start the chat. Keep the release within reach, use a stop signal you'll both notice, and never leave a restrained partner alone.

Or skip the restraints altogether. One blindfold, a willing partner and a bit of cheek can do an awful lot for a night in.