Put a blindfold on and suddenly a quiet partner becomes suspicious. That little pause before they touch you? Definitely up to something.
That's the fun of blindfold sex. A kiss, a soft touch or a familiar toy gets a little more intriguing when you don't know exactly when it's coming.
Why blindfolds make waiting interesting
When you can see your partner reaching for a toy, you know what's next. Take away that view and your imagination gets involved. Was that a hand? A feather? Are they coming closer, or enjoying making you wait?
The anticipation is enough to play with. You don't need a procession of mysterious objects or a bedroom full of equipment. A kiss they cannot see coming gives them plenty to wonder about.
Agree what you both fancy, stop when either of you asks and get settled before the blindfold goes on. Guessing where the bed ends is a different sort of excitement.
Pick a blindfold you can forget you're wearing
A soft blindfold that stays put is a better bet than a dramatic mask that keeps slipping. It should block your view without squeezing your eyes or digging into your head, and come off easily.
You want to be thinking about your partner, not the elastic. Looking mysterious is a bonus; having your ear folded in half isn't.
Add a feather for a slow tease
A feather tickler brings a light, fluttery touch that's quite different from a hand. Try it over shoulders, arms or thighs, with a few pauses to keep the wearer guessing. There's no obligation to go straight for the ticklish bits.
Our sensory play toys include feather-style ticklers for that soft-touch mood. If you already know your partner hates tickling, leave the soles of their feet out of your bright idea.
Soft fabric works too. Changing between a smooth stroke and a feathery brush gives the touch some variety without making it a guessing exam. Nobody needs to correctly identify the fabric before getting a kiss.
Add a vibrator you already enjoy
A toy you already love is an excellent place to start. The new part is not seeing it coming, rather than suddenly trying a completely different sensation.
A bullet vibrator gives you a small external toy to bring into the teasing. The sound alone can be a rather promising hint. Keep the intensity at a level the wearer enjoys.
You can enjoy a pause before the vibrator touches you without spending the entire evening waiting. Anticipation is delicious. At some point, so is getting on with it.
Fancy adding cuffs?
A blindfold and the invitation to lie back are already plenty. If you both enjoy restraint, adding it changes the mood: someone else gets to do the touching while the wearer gets to enjoy being fussed over.
Our beginner bondage kit guide covers those first options. Keep releases within reach, use a stop signal you can both notice and never leave a restrained partner alone.
Or skip the restraints completely. One blindfold, a willing partner and a bit of cheek can do an awful lot for a night in.