Wearable Vibrators: Find One That Stays Where You Want It

The vibrator feels lovely until you sit up. Now it's pressing somewhere entirely uninteresting and you're doing a discreet little wriggle to rescue it. So much for hands-free.

With a wearable vibrator, fit decides whether you enjoy the toy or spend the evening adjusting it. The right shape should suit where you want stimulation and what holds it there. “Wearable” covers several quite different toys, so start with your body rather than the remote.

Underwear vibrators sit against the clit

These toys rest externally, with underwear, a clip or a magnetic attachment helping keep them in place. They suit someone who wants clit stimulation without holding a vibrator throughout.

Underwear matters here. Fabric that holds the toy gently against you can help it stay put. Loose knickers may let it wander; something too tight can squash it uncomfortably. You want contact, not a new reason to hate your pants.

If the toy uses a separate magnetic piece, attach it properly and keep it accounted for when you take the toy off. Searching the sheets for a tiny missing part is less interesting than whatever you were planning to do on them.

Insertable toys need a comfortable shape

An insertable wearable can give internal vibration while keeping your hands free. Some have an external arm as well. The length, width and curve affect how it sits, while the position of an outside arm determines whether it reaches your clit.

A flexible toy may give you room to adjust, but flexibility isn't a guarantee of fit. If it shifts, presses painfully or needs you to squeeze constantly to keep it in, that shape may not suit you. Your vagina isn't failing a product demonstration.

Compare the different shapes in our wearable vibrator range by where you want the vibration. A smaller toy in the right place can be more useful than a larger one taking up space you don't want filled.

Try sitting and moving before handing over control

Try the fit privately, with the toy off first. Lie down, sit up and change position. Then try a low setting. That tells you far more than standing perfectly still in front of the mirror and declaring the purchase a success.

A little adjustment is ordinary. Repeated pinching, pain or numbness isn't something to put up with; stop and remove it. Add suitable lube for insertable use, and keep the toy positioned where it belongs.

The same applies during partnered sex. Some wearables are intended for use during penetration, while others aren't. More things in the same small space can mean more crowding, not more pleasure.

Give your partner the remote, keep your own stop button

Watching your partner decide when to change the setting can be half the appeal. That slightly smug look is more enjoyable when they know what you like and don't confuse “take control” with “press everything”.

Agree on the settings you're keen to try and keep a way to stop it yourself. A nearby remote and internet control are different features; our remote versus app guide sorts those out.

Wearable doesn't mean silent or invisible, either. Enjoy the toy in private with people who've agreed to join in. You don't need an audience for the teasing to work.

Choose a toy you'd still like without the clever extras

App control can be fun, especially if your partner is elsewhere. Our long-distance toy guide covers that setup. First, though, get the physical fit right.

If you're comfortable enough to forget about adjusting the toy and pay attention to the person holding the remote, you've found the point of the purchase. That's much better than spending the evening with your hand down your knickers for entirely administrative reasons.