Wand Vibrators: The Big Head That Shakes You Apart

You could leave a wand on your bedside table and tell people it's for your shoulders. They might even believe you. But we're a sex shop, and we know you've got no intention of using it on your shoulders.

A wand has a big head, a long handle and deep vibration that doesn't just tickle your clit but rolls through your whole pussy, your thighs and your stomach until your legs start shaking. If you've ever wanted to be physically overwhelmed by a sex toy, pull up a chair. Or don't. The bed's right there.

Why that big head feels so good

A wand's head covers far more of you than a bullet tip does, so you can rest it on your vulva and let it soak in, with no fiddling to keep one tiny point in place. If direct pressure on your clit is usually too much, that broad contact can be a revelation.

Want it more focused? Tilt it onto its edge. It also works beautifully on the base of a cock, on balls and over the perineum, so don't let anyone tell you wands are just for one kind of body. All that is external fun, though. A wand head doesn't go inside you.

Want a serious one? The Adam & Eve Her Majesty gives you deep, rumbly vibration with 10 modes and 3 intensity levels. It's a big, indulgent toy for anyone who wants to be knocked flat.

How strong is too strong?

Wands have a reputation for being fucking powerful, but they don't all feel alike, and the top setting isn't compulsory. Start low and press lightly, because pressure changes everything. Sometimes the gap between "bloody hell, stop" and "bloody hell, don't stop" is just easing up a bit or putting your knickers back on. If it's still too much, try our guide to softening intense vibration.

Prefer a pinpoint flutter? Try a bullet vibrator instead. Our rumbly vs fluttery guide explains the difference between the two feelings.

Big wand, little wand

Full-sized wands are great for lying back and taking it, but they can be awkward between two bodies. A mini like the Adam & Eve Dew Drop has 10 vibration modes, an angled tip and a body small enough to slip in your bag. It fits between you during sex and travels without announcing itself.

Think about your grip, too. You want a wand you can hold until the end, not one that makes your wrist clock off before you do.

Corded or cordless?

A corded wand keeps going and never needs a charging break, which suits a regular spot near a power point. It's less suited to fucking on the floor if the nearest socket's behind the wardrobe. Cordless lets you move wherever you want and hand it across the bed, but you do need to remember to charge it. Neither one tells you how strong it'll feel.

Use it with a partner

Hold a wand on your partner while they're riding you or being fucked from behind, and you've got a long handle that keeps your hand out of the way of a great view. Or tie their hands, rest it on them gently and take your sweet time turning it up.

Let them guide you on where and how hard. Holding the toy doesn't make you the world's leading authority on their clit. Or use it while you've got something inside you, like a dildo or a partner. It takes your orgasm from good to embarrassing. Browse our wand vibrators and clear some space on the bed.