Sex Swings for Beginners: Get Off the Bed and Into the Air

You're hanging in the straps with your legs spread and your hips floating at exactly the right height. You weigh nothing. Your partner's standing between your thighs, with both hands free, and all they have to do is pull you onto them and let you swing back. Your muscles aren't doing anything at all. You're just getting fucked.

A sex swing is a fairly direct way to tell your partner you've been having ideas. It's got a seat and straps, and there's no chance of passing it off as somewhere to hang the washing. It's all about being held in place, on display and completely weightless. So which one will actually work in your room?

What do you want it to do?

Maybe you want your hips held up, so you can stop holding yourself in position. Maybe you like the feeling of your partner settling you into the straps. Or maybe the sight of a swing beside your bed is already doing a lot for your imagination.

You don't need acrobatics. Slow, close, face-to-face fucking may be the whole point. Or you might want the kinkier thrill of being on show while your partner takes the lead. Work out which it is before you order the most complicated thing you can find.

Door, frame or ceiling?

A door swing is the easy place to begin. The OUCH! Door Swing needs no permanent installation: the door jam tubes go over a solid door, you close and lock it, and you slide your thighs and arms through the loops. Our full swing range also has other styles.

A freestanding frame needs floor space. A ceiling mount needs a proper structural fixing. A door sling needs a suitable door, placed correctly. The whole setup has to meet the swing's load and installation requirements, and a strong strap doesn't make a weak ceiling safe. Get structural mounting assessed and installed by someone qualified. Leave room for both of you to move, and for the person in the straps to get out easily.

Where the weight goes

Some swings have separate padded straps, and others have a broad sling or seat. Foot supports and handles also change how you can move. A narrow strap that digs into your thigh won't become sexy through sheer determination. Our sex swing seats and straps guide goes into the details.

Practise with your clothes on

Once it's all correctly set up, practise getting in, adjusting it and getting out together, ideally fully dressed. Knowing how to get out makes giving up control far more appealing. Then keep your first go simple.

Stay within the positions and movement it's rated for. Don't add bouncing, going upside down or extra people to a setup that isn't built for them. Stop for pain, numbness or uncomfortable pressure, and make sure you've got an easy way to say stop.

You can look thoroughly kinky while admitting a strap needs moving. "Hang on, my thigh" is far more useful than bravely pretending you're having a magnificent time.

What to try first

Start with you in the swing and your partner standing or kneeling in front of you. Let them hold your hips and rock you slowly. With your legs up and your weight taken care of, you can stay relaxed, and they can go deep and slow. Then let them go down on you, at exactly the right height for once. Add a bullet vibrator for good measure, since you've got your hands free.

Keep your first purchase simple

Compare swings by the support they give, how they adjust and the space you actually have. If you mainly want less effort during sex, our low-effort positions guide has ideas that don't need any installation.

If the swing itself is what turns you on, fair enough. Get one that works in real life, and find somewhere much less interesting to hang the washing.