Sex Swing Seats: What's Holding Your Arse Up While You're Getting Fucked?

You want to be held up while your partner gets close. It sounds a hell of a lot more interesting than another night of the same three positions. But you can't lose yourself in being fucked if there's a strap cutting off your thigh, so the bit under your arse deserves as much attention as the fantasy.

Some swings use separate straps for different parts of your body, and others have a broad sling or seat. That changes where the pressure sits, how supported you feel and how much of you is left on show. Here's how to choose.

Separate straps: more adjusting, more exposed

A strap-based swing can hold your back, your arse and your legs separately. You get lots of adjustment and very little in the way, which is exactly what makes it so hot. Each strap has a job, though, and it needs to sit where the design intends.

The OUCH! Door Swing uses loops for your thighs and arms, with handles to hold on to. Think about the contact area as well as the padding, as a narrow padded strap still feels different from a broad panel. If a strap digs in, or you have to brace yourself to stay put, get out and adjust it. You wanted to be supported, not given another reason to clench your arse.

A broad sling: lie back and enjoy it

A sling supports more of you at once. That's great if you like the idea of reclining with your partner close, rather than balancing on separate straps. Check the usable width, and how the edges sit, because a broad sling in a photo isn't always broad enough for you, and more fabric won't guarantee more comfort.

The Sportsheets Door Jam Sex Sling is strong and highly adjustable. Have a look at the actual support areas across our sex swing collection. The most dramatic-looking one isn't necessarily where you'd want to spend an hour.

Just want your hips up?

You may not need to leave the bed at all. The Pivot Positioner Plus XL is a big, soft foam ramp that holds your hips up with no straps at all. Our low-effort positions guide has more ideas without any suspended equipment.

Adjust it so you can reach each other

Seat height and strap length decide where you end up relative to your partner. The goal is to get your hips exactly level with theirs, or your pussy at the height of their mouth, without anyone crouching or stretching. Use only the adjustments the swing's designed for, and work out how you'll get in and out together. Just because the straps will reach doesn't mean a setup works.

It's one complete system

The seat, straps, clips and support structure all work together. A strong-looking seat, or a weight rating on one part, doesn't tell you what the complete setup can hold. Use compatible parts and proper installation, with qualified help for structural mounting. Don't improvise extensions, swap clips for household fittings or repair damaged support straps yourself. Our sex swing buying guide covers the broader decision.

Keep getting out straightforward, stay together during use and stop for any discomfort. Then you can get on with it. Nobody ever bought a sex swing because they wanted to spend an evening thinking about a buckle.